Step 4 The first Phase of Success/Failure
I have a good friend that has been telling me for a few weeks now that I needed to post an up to date photo because you could really see the difference from the weight loss. I just kept avoiding her requests, I was subconsciously avoiding doing this and not knowing why. Also I found myself in a similar situation the other day twice in the same day...I had seen people that I had not seen in a while and they immediatly commented on how good I looked. Feeling very uncomfortable I immediatly shifted the conversation back to a topic about them. After the second time doing that in one day I thought to myself "hello Nikki, you need to learn how to take a compliment".
So I immediately went to facebook and posted a new pic of me. as I was posing for the camera I was so proud and feeling wonderful, but after I posted the picture and the comments started to roll in, I just wanted to take it down. It was bothering me to have all this positive attention thrown my way. I spent the next two days literally trying to sabotage my own success, everything I had worked for so hard I was trying to undo just because I didn't like the attention it was causing. At that moment I took a step back and said this is way deeper that just simply learning how to take a compliment, I must explore. This is what I came up with...
I have now realized that it all goes back to the basics we have already talked about, Loving yourself enough, and your ability to realize you deserve it.
I know we all have our own background story, some have been abused, some have suffered physical limitations, some have suffered psychological damage, it could also be bad choices that you made in the past. I am here to tell you that whatever it is that makes you think that you are not worth it, is only holding you back. It is in the past and so long as you continue to live in the past and play the victim then your life will model that role, doomed to repeat those feelings and situations over and over.
Simply let go of being the victim, I realize that some of the things that have happened are beyond your control but the way you choose to react to them is not. I give you permission to step up and claim the life you deserve, leave whatever it is in your past behind and move into a new space, the same space you hold unconditional love and understanding for others, give it to yourself just as effortlessly as you would someone else. Why you ask? Because you Deserve it!
My love to you all and have a very Merry Christmas!!
Thursday, December 22, 2011
Thursday, December 15, 2011
Step 4 Staying focused During the Holidays Season!
Step 4 Staying focused During the Holidays Season!
No matter where you are on your journey, whether it has just begun or you are 6 months into it, when the holidays come around the corner it is very easy to find yourself back to square one. No worries, cause there are a few keys you can follow to help keep your eye on the prize during this difficult time of year. The very first thing you MUST do is not let your anxiety hit at the thought of the Holidays...we tend to sit and think about all the goodies that will be put in front of us, and all that we will be deprived of because of our diet...and these thoughts cause tons of anxiety! And this is before the season even starts.
The second thing is...any way you slice it, you can only lose weight by burning more calories that you take in. So if you eat a piece of fudge, you know you have just made a decision to walk 10 more min on the treadmill, or if you eat the pan of fudge you know you will be working out 7 days this week for an extra half hour each day! Lesson here is, even it out...calories vs exercise, if you going to eat it, just do it! Then work it off:)
The third rule is deprivation, the second we start depriving ourselves of something we really want we head down the road of disaster. I am not saying go eat everything you want, I am saying, when you find yourself in that situation stop, don't eat in impulsively. Walk away, give it a moment, really ask yourself these questions. Do I really want this? Is it worth an extra 20 min of exercise? And in the end if you really just want it and are willing to take up the slack in the gym, then just eat it!! Give yourself permission to be responsible for your actions, and be sure these actions are without guilt, do not allow yourself to attach feelings where they don't belong. You wanted fudge..and you ate it..Big whoop! You will work it off in the gym tomorrow, don't let it ruin your night, enjoy the company you are with and be happy cause life is what you make it.
The fourth and final thing, eat mindfully. When you eat that peanut butter ball rejoice in every single taste and nibble. Take your time with it, eat it like you would drink a fine wine, slowly enjoying every moment. If you enjoy every second of it, I guarantee you will not eat more than one, because the enjoyment lasts that much longer making it not necessary to have more than one. Once you have fulfilled that urge you are ready to move on to something more important like conversation with friends:)
I hope this helps you during this joyous season, love to you all!!!
No matter where you are on your journey, whether it has just begun or you are 6 months into it, when the holidays come around the corner it is very easy to find yourself back to square one. No worries, cause there are a few keys you can follow to help keep your eye on the prize during this difficult time of year. The very first thing you MUST do is not let your anxiety hit at the thought of the Holidays...we tend to sit and think about all the goodies that will be put in front of us, and all that we will be deprived of because of our diet...and these thoughts cause tons of anxiety! And this is before the season even starts.
The second thing is...any way you slice it, you can only lose weight by burning more calories that you take in. So if you eat a piece of fudge, you know you have just made a decision to walk 10 more min on the treadmill, or if you eat the pan of fudge you know you will be working out 7 days this week for an extra half hour each day! Lesson here is, even it out...calories vs exercise, if you going to eat it, just do it! Then work it off:)
The third rule is deprivation, the second we start depriving ourselves of something we really want we head down the road of disaster. I am not saying go eat everything you want, I am saying, when you find yourself in that situation stop, don't eat in impulsively. Walk away, give it a moment, really ask yourself these questions. Do I really want this? Is it worth an extra 20 min of exercise? And in the end if you really just want it and are willing to take up the slack in the gym, then just eat it!! Give yourself permission to be responsible for your actions, and be sure these actions are without guilt, do not allow yourself to attach feelings where they don't belong. You wanted fudge..and you ate it..Big whoop! You will work it off in the gym tomorrow, don't let it ruin your night, enjoy the company you are with and be happy cause life is what you make it.
The fourth and final thing, eat mindfully. When you eat that peanut butter ball rejoice in every single taste and nibble. Take your time with it, eat it like you would drink a fine wine, slowly enjoying every moment. If you enjoy every second of it, I guarantee you will not eat more than one, because the enjoyment lasts that much longer making it not necessary to have more than one. Once you have fulfilled that urge you are ready to move on to something more important like conversation with friends:)
I hope this helps you during this joyous season, love to you all!!!
Monday, December 12, 2011
Step 4 Vision Board
Step 4 Vision Board
How often do you take off on a trip without some idea where you are going? And if we did then how would we know that we were "there" when we had not predetermined any sort of destination?
If there is one thing in life I have learned, is that without some sort of idea where we are going then we tend to just flounder around aimlessly never getting very far from where we started. A few years ago I heard of something called a vision board, this board serves as your road map for where you want to be in your life. This tool works hand in hand with the theory of the Law of Attraction. If you are not farmiliar with the Law of Attraction it goes a little like this; What you believe you will receive. Yes just that simple! If you believe you are a fat pig that can't get out of your way then guess what...you are a fat pig that can't get out of your way! On the other hand if you believe that you are a fit, strong athlete than you are one! Whatever your personal truth is, is what you will become.
How many times in your life have you thought a certain thought about yourself and it came true? Mostly we remember all the bad things like.."I am fat" or "I can't do that". I am here to tell you that whatever your mind believes becomes your personal truth. So change that inner dialogue to what you want for yourself and you will begin to shift into a different place where those dreams become reality.
For years I pictured myself being a runner, but I always said "I can't do that cause my breath won't allow me to do it" or "My boobs are way to huge, and it hurts to run". For quite some time I have had thoughts and pictures of me running in my head, I have even had dreams where I saw myself running. And now I find myself running, yes all 270 pounds! I am here to tell you whatever you believe you will receive, no matter how big or small or good or bad it is!
One way of bringing these thoughts into reality is creating a vision board, I have had a vision board hanging in my bedroom for years. It changes as what I want out of life changes. Whatever it is I want to focus on I paste it on the board and place it on the wall so I can stare at it a few min before I go to bed and it is the first thing I see when I wake up. The most important thing I do is put out the feelings of already being in that moment of time where I have reached my goal. If you picture yourself at the finish line and feel the feelings that you will feel at that moment you are drawing them to you with the laws of attraction.
Whether you believe in the law of attraction really makes no difference, what do you have to lose by picturing yourself where it is you want be in the end. Putting these feelings out in the universe can do you no harm I assure you! The more you feel them the more you crave them and that feeling is the fuel that pushes you closer to your goal.
Tips on how to make you vision board:
1. Go get a bunch of old magazines you love to read and look at. As you turn the pages cut out what catches your eye, Pictures, Words, whatever jumps out at you. Once you have a bunch of things cut out start pasting them on the paper. Start in the middle, put your ultimate goal in the middle and surround it with the thoughts and feelings that will help you to reach this ultimate goal.
Now this vision board is not to share, unless you want to share. Allowing others to look deep into our dreams and goals sometimes is not a good thing. Other people tend to be a tad bit pessimistic and if we are not careful then we will give them the power to plant the seed of doubt in our mind. By allowing this to happen we are putting our goal much further away. Remember YOU are the one who has to believe, some of the greatest people in history were terrific dreamers and they did not accomplish great things by letting the opinion of others stop them. So keep this vision to yourself until you have a strong sense of it becoming your reality. I will share my vision board with you as it does not matter what anyone says because it is my current reality and no one can take that away:)
How often do you take off on a trip without some idea where you are going? And if we did then how would we know that we were "there" when we had not predetermined any sort of destination?
If there is one thing in life I have learned, is that without some sort of idea where we are going then we tend to just flounder around aimlessly never getting very far from where we started. A few years ago I heard of something called a vision board, this board serves as your road map for where you want to be in your life. This tool works hand in hand with the theory of the Law of Attraction. If you are not farmiliar with the Law of Attraction it goes a little like this; What you believe you will receive. Yes just that simple! If you believe you are a fat pig that can't get out of your way then guess what...you are a fat pig that can't get out of your way! On the other hand if you believe that you are a fit, strong athlete than you are one! Whatever your personal truth is, is what you will become.
How many times in your life have you thought a certain thought about yourself and it came true? Mostly we remember all the bad things like.."I am fat" or "I can't do that". I am here to tell you that whatever your mind believes becomes your personal truth. So change that inner dialogue to what you want for yourself and you will begin to shift into a different place where those dreams become reality.
For years I pictured myself being a runner, but I always said "I can't do that cause my breath won't allow me to do it" or "My boobs are way to huge, and it hurts to run". For quite some time I have had thoughts and pictures of me running in my head, I have even had dreams where I saw myself running. And now I find myself running, yes all 270 pounds! I am here to tell you whatever you believe you will receive, no matter how big or small or good or bad it is!
One way of bringing these thoughts into reality is creating a vision board, I have had a vision board hanging in my bedroom for years. It changes as what I want out of life changes. Whatever it is I want to focus on I paste it on the board and place it on the wall so I can stare at it a few min before I go to bed and it is the first thing I see when I wake up. The most important thing I do is put out the feelings of already being in that moment of time where I have reached my goal. If you picture yourself at the finish line and feel the feelings that you will feel at that moment you are drawing them to you with the laws of attraction.
Whether you believe in the law of attraction really makes no difference, what do you have to lose by picturing yourself where it is you want be in the end. Putting these feelings out in the universe can do you no harm I assure you! The more you feel them the more you crave them and that feeling is the fuel that pushes you closer to your goal.
Tips on how to make you vision board:
1. Go get a bunch of old magazines you love to read and look at. As you turn the pages cut out what catches your eye, Pictures, Words, whatever jumps out at you. Once you have a bunch of things cut out start pasting them on the paper. Start in the middle, put your ultimate goal in the middle and surround it with the thoughts and feelings that will help you to reach this ultimate goal.
Now this vision board is not to share, unless you want to share. Allowing others to look deep into our dreams and goals sometimes is not a good thing. Other people tend to be a tad bit pessimistic and if we are not careful then we will give them the power to plant the seed of doubt in our mind. By allowing this to happen we are putting our goal much further away. Remember YOU are the one who has to believe, some of the greatest people in history were terrific dreamers and they did not accomplish great things by letting the opinion of others stop them. So keep this vision to yourself until you have a strong sense of it becoming your reality. I will share my vision board with you as it does not matter what anyone says because it is my current reality and no one can take that away:)
Saturday, December 10, 2011
Step 4 Moving into a New Space
Step 4 Moving into a New Space
Over the last 13 weeks I feel as though I have moved into a new space, not just with my physical body but most importantly with my mental status. I remember just a few short weeks ago as I would workout, my feet and legs hurt so bad, with every step I just wanted to stop but my mind kept me going with the thoughts of where I would soon be. In my mind I felt like I could just take off running but my physical body just did not allow that to happen, every time I worked out there was a sense of disappointment that would surface because of the limitations I was faced with. I quickly had to push those thoughts aside and keep telling myself that this soon would pass and my physical body would catch up to the body that I envisioned in my mind, the body that I knew was there.
I realize I have only lost 30 pounds, but I am telling you I feel as though I am walking with a new set of legs. I am running on the treadmill for goodness sakes! There is an amazing feeling when your body catches up to your mind, a feeling that is indescribable!
Now for my mind, I am not going to sit here and tell you that every day is filled with joy because I have mysteriously solved my emotional eating issue, and it has vanished with each pound lost, because that would just be a lie. I still struggle with this at times, but there is a few differences 1. I acknowledge my behavior 2. I fix the problem rather than drown it in food 3. Most importantly, when I am faced with one of these moments I make better choices because I believe that I deserve a better life;)
“When obstacles arise, you change your direction to reach your goal, you do not change your decision to get there.”
Over the last 13 weeks I feel as though I have moved into a new space, not just with my physical body but most importantly with my mental status. I remember just a few short weeks ago as I would workout, my feet and legs hurt so bad, with every step I just wanted to stop but my mind kept me going with the thoughts of where I would soon be. In my mind I felt like I could just take off running but my physical body just did not allow that to happen, every time I worked out there was a sense of disappointment that would surface because of the limitations I was faced with. I quickly had to push those thoughts aside and keep telling myself that this soon would pass and my physical body would catch up to the body that I envisioned in my mind, the body that I knew was there.
I realize I have only lost 30 pounds, but I am telling you I feel as though I am walking with a new set of legs. I am running on the treadmill for goodness sakes! There is an amazing feeling when your body catches up to your mind, a feeling that is indescribable!
Now for my mind, I am not going to sit here and tell you that every day is filled with joy because I have mysteriously solved my emotional eating issue, and it has vanished with each pound lost, because that would just be a lie. I still struggle with this at times, but there is a few differences 1. I acknowledge my behavior 2. I fix the problem rather than drown it in food 3. Most importantly, when I am faced with one of these moments I make better choices because I believe that I deserve a better life;)
“When obstacles arise, you change your direction to reach your goal, you do not change your decision to get there.”
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